So who’s the biggest jerk? (Feminism Department)

First, the picture found on reddit that spawned this post (click for a larger, more readable version)

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First and foremost, I want to echo Point #5 in the brilliant response above; posting the original image was less than sensitive. But if you step back and look at the larger picture, as satire goes, it’s pretty funny. The woman in question probably did not expect to be turned into an internet icon, but as was mentioned, anything that anyone posts on the Internet is fodder for being used, abused, and misused. It comes with the territory.

Second: I have long believed – and as a child of the 50’s I experienced the entire bra-burning, man-hating feminist frenzy of the subsequent two decades – that feminism from its earliest inception was hijacked by strident voices who understood very little of what equality is truly about. Their kind, along with other radical groups whose agenda was crystallized around putting the enemy down and making them pay for their oppression, have lost most of their cachet in the 21st century, and that’s a good thing. If racial and gender-based equality is to be obtained, it’s not going to happen by setting fire to the patriarchy or the white, Anglo-Saxon Protestant establishment – it will only be obtained by decent people everywhere speaking out against injustice and shining the harsh light of reason on ignorance and brutality. That’s what Reverend King was about. That’s what Gandhi was about – don’t set fires, don’t riot, don’t beat, don’t attack – but never accept injustice.

The war for equality in our society has not been won – in historical terms, the first shots have barely been fired. But the battle continues; people historically oppressed in all sectors of society, including minorities, the disabled, women, the GLBT community, and perhaps some I haven’t even thought of, continue to fight for one thing, and one thing only: the right to be treated the same as everyone else.

In an interview with Mike Wallace, Morgan Freeman summed up the ultimate end-state of equality in a very simple statement:

WALLACE: How are we going to get rid of racism until …?
FREEMAN: Stop talking about it. I’m going to stop calling you a white man. And I’m going to ask you to stop calling me a black man. I know you as Mike Wallace. You know me as Morgan Freeman. You’re not going to say, “I know this white guy named Mike Wallace.” Hear what I’m saying?

As long as we continue to use any adjectives to describe one another in purely social terms, in a way that erects that intrinsically-desired barrier between “us” and “them” – adjectives like female, male, gay, Christian, Muslim, obese, disabled, black, white, and a dictionary full of others, we as occupants of this island earth are guilty of racism, sexism, and every “-ism” you care to name. We have missed the boat, and have not reached the finish line. It is my hope that someday, humanity will get there. We are, in the end, all members of the same race and species: the human race.

Lastly, as was beautifully pointed out in the response to Cosmo’s snark above, that particular magazine is among the last on earth to make any judgments about feminism. In my opinion, it is one of the most sexist, demeaning, exclusionary, debasing, and offensive publications on the newsstands… and somehow it’s popularity continues to fly high.

Which only reinforces my thesis – we may be making progress, but we have a long, long way to go.  But as daunting as the struggle may seem, we can never, ever, ever give up.

The Old Wolf has spoken.

New Study Reveals: Wolverines Don’t Like to be Teased!

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An Open Letter to the Media:

Stop it. Just stop it. The press, television, radio and the blogosphere latch on to every new study and report it as though the results were definitive.

Here’s a perfect example:

Heavy coffee consumption linked to higher death risk – USA Today

Oh, wait – that’s from USA today, the “thinking man’s National Enquirer” (women not exempt either), so probably wise to take anything you read there with a whole box of salt. But seriously, folks:

NIH study finds that coffee drinkers have lower risk of death – National Institutes of Health

Just go out there and do your own research: butter, eggs, chocolate, vitamins, sugar, white flour – and we’re not even talking about the tinfoil hat patent-medicine and nostrums hawked by the populist doctors and talk-show hosts like “green coffee beans[1] and the Açaí Berry – just the run-of-the-mill, everyday stuff; it’s good for you, it’s bad for you, it stops cancer, it causes cancer, it gives you diabetes, it lowers cholesterol, and on and on and on to the lemniscate [2].

As it turns out, most of what the media reports is nothing like the actual conclusions found in the study. Put together a database of 50 peer-reviewed studies, each double-blind, placebo-based and randomized, and if there’s a preponderance of evidence, *then* report on it. Oh, but wait, truth is not as important as eyeballs on ads. Yarg.

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This wolverine is angry


[1] In fairness, this particular article pretty much debunks the hype and asks the right questions, but there are plenty of others out there trumpeting the benefits as though this was the greatest thing since sliced bread.

[2] ∞

Never, ever, make this mistake.

(This is a re-enactment; no one was harmed in this film)

Every 10 days a child dies from vehicular heatstroke. If you want more grim details, read this 2010 Pulitzer Prize-winning article by Gene Weingarten.

“What kind of person forgets a baby? The wealthy do, it turns out. And the poor, and the middle class. Parents of all ages and ethnicities do it. Mothers are just as likely to do it as fathers. It happens to the chronically absent-minded and to the fanatically organized, to the college-educated and to the marginally literate. In the last 10 years, it has happened to a dentist. A postal clerk. A social worker. A police officer. An accountant. A soldier. A paralegal. An electrician. A Protestant clergyman. A rabbinical student. A nurse. A construction worker. An assistant principal. It happened to a mental health counselor, a college professor and a pizza chef. It happened to a pediatrician. It happened to a rocket scientist. Last year it happened three times in one day, the worst day so far in the worst year so far in a phenomenon that gives no sign of abating. The facts in each case differ a little, but always there is the terrible moment when the parent realizes what he or she has done, often through a phone call from a spouse or caregiver. This is followed by a frantic sprint to the car. What awaits there is the worst thing in the world.”

If you see a child locked in a hot car, phone 911, break a window and save the child. Let the consequences fall where they may.

The Old Wolf has spoken.

Homage to the Shuttle Program

This awesome film is taken from the upcoming Special Edition Ascent: Commemorating Space Shuttle DVD/BluRay by NASA/Glenn a movie from the point of view of the Solid Rocket Booster with sound mixing and enhancement done by the folks at Skywalker Sound. The sound is all from the camera microphones and not fake or replaced with foley artist sound. The Skywalker sound folks just helped bring it out and make it more audible.

The movie both intrigues and saddens me. I honor every individual who ever worked on this project, from the brave astronauts (and their families) who went and returned, or who went and did not, to those who swept the stairs and emptied the trash. I honor the accomplishments in science and knowledge that these herculean efforts produced.

I express a deep sense of sadness and anger at our legislators over time who were not forward-looking enough to continue funding for the space program, so that a viable replacement might have been ready when our shuttle fleet had aged beyond its usefulness. There is no excuse for such obtuseness; these individuals chose again and again to throw trillions of dollars into unwinnable and futile and fruitless wars, not to mention some of the finest blood of our nation, while beneficial and inspiring projects like this program – and others which might have been – went begging.

Remembering

The Old Wolf has spoken.

NSA vs. the World

Over at Reddit, user /u/SexualWeasel came up with the idea for this new NSA logo, which was then vectorized by user /u/joystick354:

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This absolutely begged to be turned into something else, and redditor /u/Sqorck went ahead and did it. Amazingly well.

For your gratuitous enjoyment, I present you with USA vs. NSA:

An alternate version was also created – you can decide for yourself which one you like best:

I have insufficient words to describe how awesome I think these are.

Naturally, the original concept came from Pixar, to whom credit and apologies are offered.

The Old Wolf has spoken, and the NSA is listening.

Hollie McNish, Poet Shamed By Breastfeeding In Public, Has The Last Word

I remember back in 1979 when our firstborn came into the world, there was a lady who lived across the street who belonged to La Leche League. She was a nice lady, but we considered her a bit of a militant about breastfeeding. It turns out that people like her are still needed. For our part, thanks to their mother’s diligence, all of my kids were breastfed until age 1 (except my daughter, who at 9 months looked up at her mom, laughed, and refused to nurse any more, period the end thank you. You can imagine there was an uncomfortable week or so thereafter…)

It turns out that our society has a serious cognitive disconnect going on about breastfeeding – political cartoonist Horsey captured it perfectly in a 2012 offering:

In support of all nursing mothers

Now comes Hollie McNish, mother, activist, poet, and thinker, who has posted (among others) a blistering damnation of people who shame breastfeeding women in public. I wish everyone in the world could listen to this piece and really, really understand what she’s saying.

The words of the poem are as follows (you’ll notice a little variance between the written text and what she delivered on the video; I happen to like the spoken version better, but you can decide for yourself.)

Embarrassed, by Hollie McNish
At first
I thought it was ok
I could understand their reasons
They said ‘There might be young children or a nervous man seeing’
this small piece of flesh that they weren’t quite expecting
so I whispered and tiptoed with nervous discretion.
But after six months of her life sat sitting on lids
Sipping on her milk nostrils sniffing up piss
Trying not to bang her head on toilet roll dispensers
I wonder whether these public loo feeds offend her?
Cos I’m getting tired of discretion and being ‘polite’ as my baby’s first sips are drowned drenched in shite,
I spent the first feeding months of her beautiful life
Feeling nervous and awkward and wanting everything right.
Surrounded by family until I stepped out the house
It took me eight weeks to get the confidence to go into town
Now the comments around me cut like a knife
As I rush into toilet cubicles feeling nothing like nice.
Because I’m giving her milk that’s not in a bottle
Wishing the cocaine generation white powder would topple
I see pyramid sales pitches across our green globe
and female breasts banned. Unless they’re out just for show.
And the more I go out, the more I can’t stand it,
I walk into town feel I’m surrounded by bandits
Cos in this country of billboards covered in ‘tits’
and family newsagents’ magazines full of it
Whsmith top shelves out for men – Why don’t you complain about them then?
In this country of billboards covered in ‘tits’
and family newsagents magazines full of it
Whsmith top shelves out for men, I’m getting embarrassed
In case a small flash of flesh might offend.
And I’m mot trying to ‘parade’ this, I don’t want to make a show
But when I’m told I’d be better just staying at home
And when another friend I know is thrown off a bus
And another woman told to get out the pub
Even my grandma said maybe I was ‘sexing it up’.
And I’m sure the milk makers love all this fuss
All the cussing and worry and looks of disgust
As another mother turns from nipples to powder
Ashamed or embarrassed by comments around her and
As I hold her head up and pull my cardy across and she sips on the liquor made by everyones God, I think
For God sake, Jesus drank it
So did Sidhartha, Muhammed and Moses and both of their fathers
Ganesh and Shiva and Brighid and Buddha and I’m sure they weren’t doing it sniffing up piss as their mothers sat embarassed on cold toilet lids
In a country of billboards covered in ‘tits’
In a country of low cut tops cleavage and skin
In a country of cloth bags and recycling bins and as I desperately try to take all of it in,
I hold her head up
I can’t get my head round
The anger towards us and not to the sounds
of lorries offloading formula milk
into countries where water runs dripping in filth
In towns where breasts are oasis of life
now dried up in two for one offers, enticed by labels and logos and gold standard rights
claiming ‘breastmilk is healthier powdered and white’
packaged and branded and sold at a price so that nothing is free in this money fuelled life.
Which is fine
If you need it or prefer and can afford to use bottles, where water is clean and bacteria boiled,
but in towns where they drown in pollution and sewage
bottled kids die and they knew that they’d do it
In families where pennies are savoured like sweets
We’re now paying for one thing that’s always been free
In villages empty of hospital beds
babies die, diarrhoea fuelled that breastmilk would end
So no more will I sit on these cold toilet lids
No matter how embarrassed I feel as she sips
Cos in this country of billboards covered in ‘tits’
I think I should try to get used to this.

Hollie wrote,

I wrote this poem in a public toilet after my 6 month old baby fell asleep. I was in town on my own a lot with her and the first time I fed her someone commented that I should stay home. Baby’s need breastfed every 2-3 hours often. It’s impossible to run home. It’s a stupid argument anyway. But I was embarrassed and for 6 months took her into toilets when I was alone without the support of boyfriend, friends, mum etc. I hate that I did that but I was nervous, tired and felt awkward. And now I find it weird that our TVs, media etc never show breastfeeding in soaps, cartoons, anything. That we and the US are so bloody scared of it. It’s weird. I find our culture weird and even weirder, when people are so strapped for cash. It is costing parents a huge amount of money paying for something which most of us, those of us who are lucky enough for our bodies to do so, get for free. I have a lot of mates who complain they’re broke but stop breastfeeding cos they feel awkward, and pay for formula. Why are we paying billionaire companies for something our bodies produce for FREE. It’s really good marketing that we feel so wrong doing something like this I think. And it makes me sadder every day. Next we’ll be buying sweat in bottles from Tescos and rubbing it on our skin paying for electronic books to read nighttime stories. Oh, wait…

Huffington Post, in an article about Ms. McNish, also provides a list of places mothers have been shamed for breastfeeding, and the results:

At Hollister

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Brittany Warfield, a mother of three from Texas,was nursing her 7-month-old outside of a Hollister store in a Houston mall, she says a manager forced her to move. “He said, ‘You can’t do this here. This is not where you do that. You can’t do that on Hollister property. We don’t allow that.’ I said, ‘It’s Texas. I can breastfeed anywhere I like.’ He said, ‘Not at Hollister. Your stroller is blocking the way. You have to go,’” she recalls.

On Facebook

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Mom and breastfeeding advocate Emma Kwasnicahad posted over 200 photos on Facebook of herself nursing her own three children and told the Huffington Post that her account has been suspended at least five times as a result.  She organized a nurse-in in front of Facebook headquarters to challenge the company’s policy that says photos depicting breastfeeding are “inappropriate.”

At Target

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Houston mother Michelle Hickman says she was harassed and humiliated by Target staff when she found a quiet space in the store to breastfeed her infant. She organized an international “nurse-in” at several Target locations on Tuesday December 28th. Pictured above is mom who participated, Brittany Hinson and her 4-month-old son, Kennedy, in front of the Super Target store, in Webster, Texas.

At a Cafe

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Claire Jones-Hughes wrote: “After being verbally attacked for not covering up while feeding my four-month-old, I decided it was time to make a statement to show that mothers will no longer tolerate being harassed for feeding our babies in public.” She then staged a breastfeeding flash mob at the Clock Tower in Brighton, UK.

In A Government Building

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Simone dos Santos was breastfeeding her four-month-old in the hallway of a D.C. government building when two female security guards told her to stop because it was indecent. “I was shocked, upset and angry that by providing food for my son, I was being treated like a criminal,” she wrote in a blog post for the Washington Post.

In The Courtroom

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In November, Natalie Hegedus, a Michigan resident, was asked to leave a courtroom by a district judge. Her post on the community forum, BabyCenter, caused a national uproar.

On a Bus

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This past June, a mom was harassed by a bus driver for breastfeeding on a Detroit-area bus.

On a Plane

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Back in 2006, 27-year-old mom, Emily Gillette, was removed from a Delta flight for breastfeeding. Watch a news clip about this story here.

At The Mall

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Ohio mom Rhonda claimed that she was kicked out of her local mall for breastfeeding, back in February. Mall security even called for back-up.

At the Pool

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We’ve heard about these incidents from coast to coast. In 2001, a mother nursing her 9-month-old was told to move away from the edge of the poolso as to avoid contaminating the water with her breast milk.

In Her Religious Community

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One mom posted a frustrated essay in November 2006, detailing her pastor telling her that photos of her breastfeeding were equivalent to pornography. She and her husband decided to leave the church after this incident.

At McDonald’s

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Clarissa Bradford was kicked out of a McDonald’s by an assistant manager for breastfeeding her 6-month-old child in August 2010.


It’s not hard to see the problem. To use a common meme,

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It’s just wrong. Babies deserve the very best, but our society is conspiring to keep them from getting it. The purityrannical attitudes of small people in positions of power (sadly, including some women) discourage breastfeeding and prevent generation after generation of babies from getting the best possible start in life. And it has to stop.I applaud Ms. McNish and all the determined women who are pushing back against the tide. It will only be through their persistence that awareness will be raised and this bit of social folly will be done away.

Thanks to blogger inshadowz, a late-breaking addition. We’ve long known that Europeans have much fewer hangups about the human body than Americans; this image appeared some time ago in the restaurant of an IKEA in Norway:

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It says, “Please use the sofa if you’d like to sit more comfortably while breastfeeding.” Hurra for Ikea!

Another relevant update: A blog post by Matt Walsh about Progressive Puritanism; and a cartoon recently found by blogger Inzhadowz and shared with me over at Facebook:

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The Old Wolf has spoken.

It’s not all black and white

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This sad stone is the memorial of a woman whose real name was Kate Simpson.

A volunteer paid for a marker to be placed at her grave in September 1997, bearing the inscription:

Kate McCormick
Seduced and pregnant by her father’s friend,
unwed, she died from abortion, her only choice.
Abandoned in life and death by family.
With but a single rose from her mother.
Buried only through the kindness of unknown benefactors.
Died Feb.1875 age 21.

Victim of an unforgiving society
Have mercy on us.

I am not ready to get into a full-blown essay regarding my thoughts on abortion. The issues, for me, are too close and personal, and it would take more time than I have available to get everything sorted out in words that I’m happy with. But this little bit I can share for now:

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Regardless of what I believe personally, we must never return to a place where women are given no choice but to endanger their own lives, because of laws made by a body overwhelmingly populated by men who will never have to face the choices about which they are legislating. That place makes no sense at all.

The Old Wolf has spoken.

Hypocrisy: Unchained

Found at Reddit:

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There is a serious cognitive disconnect in our society. Paula Deen has been pretty much thrown in the dumpster for using the word “nigger”… once. Yet “Django Unchained” throws that word around one hundred and thirteen times, and earns an 88% (reviewers) / 94% (audience) rating at Rotten Tomatoes.

This isn’t Huckleberry Finn, a book written in 1884 and “a product of its times” (that book uses the word 203 times, by the way)… this is a 2012 production that has grossed over $423 million, and won two academy awards – one for best screenplay.

I abhor prejudice and discrimination in all its forms. Ms. Deen committed a serious error in judgment when she dropped that word in public [1] and I’m not condoning or justifying what she did… but rather, I’m asking the question, “Why was “Django” so popular if, by virtue of statistics, it should have been found 113 times as offensive as one person’s lapse of good manners?” Where’s the justification for that kind of popularity? If this racial slur is as offensive as everyone at politically-correct dinner parties and media newsrooms seems to think, how could a movie like this even get greenlighted, let alone make it to the Academy Awards?

There are a lot of people out there still talking about race relations, but I’d be really interested to hear what Morgan Freeman thought about this. He’s the one who pointed out that we’ll never get past the issue of race until we stop talking about it, and movies like “Django” seem – in my simple opinion – to be a force counter to progress toward greater humanity. That means that if a word is unquestionably offensive, everyone ought to stop using it. White folk shouldn’t use it. Black folk shouldn’t use it (claiming that they’ve pre-empted it, and made it “theirs”). Filmmakers and authors shouldn’t use it. If people keep using an offensive word and sometimes it’s OK and sometimes it’s not, then there are some serious questions to be asked.

I have no real answers, but the matter – in the words of Khan – “tasks me”… and I felt moved to put the questions out there.

The Old Wolf has spoken.


[1] I’m aware that her problems are a bit more complex than the one incident in question, but for the sake of simplicity I won’t elaborate on that here, as the other issues don’t really bear on the root problem.